That

June 1, 2009 · 17 comments

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Corea, Maine.
That. Yes.
A chubby fingertip
on a map says so.

May 2009.
That, too, we think.
There is a calendar
somewhere.

Some things require less
thinking to be true.

Some things require more
thinking, better footwear,
beauty before age,
swine before pearls,
to find their way onto
the same continent as
the truth.

C’est la vie.
C’est.
Quoi?

That.
That photograph.
That? we wonder.
Touch it, and it will not say.
She will not speak to you.

We can make our guesses,
of course. That is one that
that can’t be helped. Guesswork
is to human as gossip is to human
as to wondering where the socks and
toenail clippings go is to human.

Fine. We’ll choose human.
Mustn’t always complain.

As humans, we can sigh.
Oh, lovely! Good on her!
Smiles! About time!

We can turn up our noses.
Why her? Don’t you know
about her? How she came
to be there?

What we do with that
says more about us
than it does
the photograph.

Better not to comment
at all. Better still to
slip your feet into
the shoes you see.
Maine water, that much
we know. Cold. Those
shoes of hers will never
be the same again.

Better still to slip behind
the smile. The dark blur
of the shoreline is waiting
there for us, along with
an evergreen or two.

The bag?
Could be she’s covering something.
Could be she’s full. Pregnant
with shells, bones, blood,
seaweed, hair, soda can tabs,
the history of everything that
once moved her and will never
move her again.

And so,
a bag. That bag.

Don’t. You mustn’t.
Instead, take the bag.
We can wear it for her. If we look
inside, we will see that this
was never that.

And when we look back at
the photograph, she will be
gone. The photo, now a postcard.
Wish.

We can look and look. But
the chilly waters have swallowed
her footprints, and the current
will betray nothing.

There we go, guessing again,
ruminating, bovine humans.
We must understand what we
never will: that is
beyond our comprehension.
So is this.

Farewell, comprehension.
This human life can only be
lived with compassion, passion,
and compassion for the passionate.

This:
Loving what we love,
missing what we believed we were.

That:
Choosing what we choose,
mourning what we do not choose,
know we will not choose.

This and that.
This and that are all we have.

{ 17 comments… read them below or add one }

1 betsy June 1, 2009 at 8:08 pm

Girl, you went back! Maine is restorative. I was up in Corea/Winter Harbor a few weeks ago. It always helps. xo

And I love this:
“This human life can only be
lived with compassion, passion,
and compassion for the passionate.”

2 anonymom June 1, 2009 at 8:41 pm

Don’t understand it at all, but you’re smiling and that is enough for me.

3 Fairly Odd Mother June 1, 2009 at 9:03 pm

You are lovely, as are your words. May that smile still be warming you now.

4 velocibadgergirl June 1, 2009 at 9:44 pm

Love

5 pamela June 1, 2009 at 11:07 pm

beautiful

6 Dawn June 1, 2009 at 11:17 pm

You give me goosebumps. Maybe moosebumps, even.

7 Rebecca June 2, 2009 at 1:03 am

Didn’t really understand this on a literal level, but as I was reading I got goosebumps and a pounding heart and thoughts of death. You’re writing touched me, not a soft touch….more like a tongue against a canker sore, but still.

8 Bethany June 2, 2009 at 8:04 am

Hello there, you pulled me out of lurkdom to say… thank you. That is beautiful, and halted me from hasty words toward a friend. “That” is true. Everything has their own That. And compassion is a necessity. Have a happy day. :)

9 furiousball June 2, 2009 at 8:09 am

i love that picture of you. made me smile with my mouth and stuff.

10 Lesley June 2, 2009 at 9:02 am

Jen, I want to believe what the picture tells me and not what I fear from the words. I hope you’re OK.

11 Jenn June 2, 2009 at 9:44 am

I’m okay. I am. Holding as steady as I can.

12 Meghan June 2, 2009 at 10:45 pm

I am so bad at de-coding these entries, but I just wanted you to know that I am still here, reading and wishing you could feel some real happiness.

13 Jennie June 2, 2009 at 11:09 pm

That landscape is so beautiful, and so melancholic. It reminds me of where I go to be alone in Inverness (the one in No. Cal, not Scotland).

Scrutiny is a bitch isn’t it? Every day I try to remind myself that I really don’t always know what my judgmental brain thinks it knows about people and events.

I hope that there were moments (even if they were just moments) of joy had on that trip.

14 stephanie (bad mom) June 3, 2009 at 12:37 am

This:

missing what we believed we were

kind of breaks my heart, in a necessary way.

*blessings

15 Shel June 3, 2009 at 12:45 pm

Farewell, comprehension.

Hello Moosebumps.

I know this: that is love

16 magpie June 5, 2009 at 11:21 am

Wild and compellingly beautiful.

(I love that part of Maine.)

17 Danielle-Lee June 18, 2009 at 8:38 pm

Sigh. I don’t understand all of it, but I know if I go back, read it slowly, and feel each line, it will take over me more than it did the first time. I am still working on being ‘this’ and not missing ‘that’.

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