Comments on: Red Things That Are Not States

By: Sandi

Sandi — Tue, 07 Oct 2008 18:48:25 +0000

Oh, Jenn! I’m one of the many who has read for so long, I feel I know you. This made me want to cry. We’re planning to use our tax refund next spring as a means of paying for gym classes for my 2 little ones. Already, I’m cringing as I anticipate the judgmental looks I’m likely to receive for spending money in so “ridiculous” a fashion. We get a lot of help with bills from family, and I always feel like I have to justify everything.

Good for you, Jenn. A well planned purchase for mere pennies can make you feel like a million bucks. Hope you enjoy the toasty fake flames!

By: Karen

Karen — Thu, 25 Sep 2008 14:16:53 +0000

LOL! Great pics and choices. The red shoes on the red carpet is my fave.

By: Flynn

Flynn — Thu, 18 Sep 2008 18:30:44 +0000

anon, i think blogs and online forums in general can create a sense of anonymity where people “hide” behind an online name without revealing their true idenity. This has its draw backs, such as saying things that wouldnt necesarily be said face to face. that said, if you are such a supporter couldnt there be a nicer way of expressing your opinion? i know that not everything needs to sugar coated and presented in a pleasant way and that having a wide range of feedback is important but there are different ways to do that without hurting someone or being overly critical. I understand your situation and i respect where you are coming from.

much love to the red shoes and stove

By: Anne

Anne — Mon, 15 Sep 2008 20:41:49 +0000

hee. We have a new electric fire in our new living room with fake flames. And my first words were, I LOVE fake flames. They are so amusing.

Those are mighty fine shoes, lady!

By: Marcia

Marcia — Sun, 14 Sep 2008 22:28:06 +0000

I haven’t read the blogs for a while, and just found them again on the new site, so I’m getting caught up. With the hard times, emotionally and financially that are occurring right now in Jenn’s life, I applaud her for the red shoes. They are a symbol that, even if happiness eludes her right now, it’s around the corner. Red shoes are hopeful! The heater is very cute, but let’s face it, the heater’s a necessity. It’s not a luxury item. This whole debate in the posts makes me think of Harper Lee’s words, coming from character Atticus Finch. I don’t know the exact quote, but it’s something like, “until you’ve walked a mile in someone else’s shoes, you can’t know what they’ve been through,” or judge them for it!

By: Astarte

Astarte — Sun, 14 Sep 2008 00:27:43 +0000

I think disagreeing is OK, but not accusing someone of something. It’s one thing to disagree on a political point, or on whether someone looks good in a certain dress or hairstyle, but NOT to imply that someone is screwing their kids over by buying a pair of shoes and a HEATER. Since we don’t know each other all in person, and the internet is easily misinterpreted, I think it’s best to keep *value* judgements to oneself.

By: karen

karen — Sat, 13 Sep 2008 20:52:34 +0000

I think any comment is ok, as long as the author has the integrity to attach their own name. Posting a comment anonymously says, to me, that you are ashamed of what you write. Disagree! Rebut! Offer another view! If everyone had the same opinion, the world would be dull. Say your piece with pride, though, and sign your name. Otherwise, you’re just a bully that nobody would sit with at lunch.

By: Meghan

Meghan — Sat, 13 Sep 2008 14:19:09 +0000

Well, Anon #34: I “obtained my information” from Jenn’s own response to you. She said, “3) That Were Obtained Dirt Cheap On Sale Out Of Necessity When I Forgot to Bring Shoes to the Wedding I Went To Several States Away From Home.” So, my opinion stands. You are wrong here and you should admit it. Your words were very hurtful and you should stop defending it. Just grow up a little.

By: Astarte

Astarte — Fri, 12 Sep 2008 23:48:02 +0000

I have been ogling that heater for YEARS!!! Oh, that I had a place to put it, I’m telling you…. it’s gorgeous!!!

And Those Shoes!!! THOSE are MILF shoes, my friend. Seriously.

By: nono

nono — Fri, 12 Sep 2008 18:47:31 +0000

Anon, I agree and am very receptive to the fact that everyone has a right to give or leave a positive or negative comment…it is a fundamental right, and can prove quite enlightening most of the time. I guess where I disagree with you, is how that negative comment is given. This is not a corporate, faceless person you are commenting to. If reading your comment made my heart lurch with pain, at the thought of how it was going to impact Jenn, then I can only imagine how she felt, having it directed and personally at her. Your intentions may not have been to hurt, but your words did. She’s unable to see your expression when you “speak” your words…as maybe you had compassion in your eyes at the time you typed it…so instead maybe next time chose your words more gently…. more humanely… to get your point across.

I’m just a average woman, mom and wife wishing that people would be just a bit kinder in this world with all their opinions. It makes such an impact in everyone’s lives. Rudeness and insensivity just cause needless pain….which most of us have enough of already.

Okay, I’m stepping off the soap box. My best to you both.